This is a post long time coming but very important for me to share. Sometime 2 years ago, I learned about Big Sister of BC Organization and I was eager to find a little sister I could help just by simple weekly hangouts. I passed the preparation course to become a Big Sister and even though I felt nervous to become a mentor of a young girl I don’t know at all, I couldn’t wait to start. I felt somewhat scared but extremely excited and full of expectations inside.
It took a few months for them to find me a match in the neighbourhood and I could not be more grateful for Stephanie coming to my life. I remember the first time we met, she was rather quiet and looked like a typical book nerd. Oh and she totally is, which is an exact opposite of me. She wasn’t very outdoorsy and one of her goals was to explore Vancouver a bit more. We planned our first hangout to go ice-skating at Hillcrest Centre and that was definitely something outside of comfort zone for Steph. I remember the first time I made her laugh while having a snack after our ice-skating session. I’m sure I said something silly and asked about boys in her class. I figured that’s what 12 years old are all about. I wasn’t too far from the truth haha!
I bought this cool interactive journal with lots of inspirational quotes and little activities and we decided to always work on one page each time we see each other, always sticking something to the page that will remind us of our hangout. Our first time was on November 30, 2016 and that green thing would be a wristband from ice-skating. If you look through our book, you’ll find a lot of movie tickets, Starbuck things, empty pistachio shell or torn paper with our secret confessions stick into the book. Looking through the book makes me emotional and reminds me of all great times we’ve had together.
I asked Steph to write about her experience with Big sister and our relationship. Even though she always teases me and occasionally gives me hard time, it made my heart sunk when I read what she had to say…
“Heyyyy peeps. I’m here to talk about my big sis’ Lucy. I’m for certain that we met November 30th, Wednesday 2016; I know that because we have a book where we can do cool activities in it every time we hang out, you know, because we’re just cool like that. I don’t really know what to talk about, I guess its because you cant really put a relationship like mine and Lucy’s into words, my guess would be awesome, life changing, and feeling like actual sisters. We’ve been going on adventures for over a year now and every single one of them was amazing. I guess I can say that Lucy is an awesome person in general, there were times when I wasn’t having a good day, and instead of forcing me to go and hang out, she laid down in bed with me and we just talked. She can make me laugh when I frown; she makes me feel good about myself without knowing it. Times when I felt like people were putting me down, she always somehow helped me back up by laughing at my jokes, saying I’m an awesome person out of the blue, and always telling me how strong I am. Being Big Sisters with Lucy wasn’t just having someone to go hang out with, it was connecting and being awesome together. Sincerely, Your awesome little sis Stephanie!”
I’ve learned SO much from watching Stephanie grow and see the world through her innocent eyes. She’s been through incredibly tough times in her past and I felt lots of responsibility to always be there for her and never fail on showing up for her. Stephanie’s heart is filled with love, joy and compassion. She’s a warrior who inspires me to get through my own little struggles and stay strong. She is crazy funny, smart, beautiful and very talented writer.
It’s been pretty amazing for me to watch her change every single week (you know, teenagers haha). Lots of times she’s the mature one in our friendship but there’s also lots of times when I have to make sure I’m leading by example and I’m giving her support with no judgement. There were times when I was running between 3 jobs and somehow I always managed to schedule our hangouts which always felt like a commitment I just simply won’t cancel on. She’s counting on me to show up and I know how important it is for her. It hasn’t been always easy for me when I felt super exhausted, but every time I get to see her and we sit in a car, we start singing out loud together and I can feel the connection with her and I don’t see her only as my Little Sister, I see her as one of my best friends who I get to hangout with. I see her as someone who loves spending the time together and who sees herself in me even though we’re so different. Steph makes me laugh all the time and even though she’s shy to say it sometimes, I can feel her love, support and acceptance for how I am.
I would recommend everybody who is capable of making the weekly commitment to experience the relationship with their Little Sister and become one of the stable pillars of their life. This relationship helped me open my eyes and look at the world differently. It made me more compassionate, loving and caring. Huge thanks to Big Sister organization and if you want to become a Mentor yourself, go have a look at their website: https://www.bigsisters.bc.ca/
Steph, thank you so much for how you are and all the fun we have together!!! I’m SO proud of you and stay super awesome like always! I love when we sing in the car together, I don’t even feel embarrassed with you haha! Love you!